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Email Insanity & the 0.001 Challenge
Merlin Mann | Apr 24 2008
Via a Toot by Jeff Atwood comes this thoughtful post by Tantek Çelik on how email is no longer working for him. His first reason is a biggie:
This is one reason I'm getting attracted to using Get Satisfaction as a way to expose help issues to a large group of helpers and helpees (BTW, we're just getting started on GS -- FAQs and more will be coming soon). I'm also realizing that this is why I (and Jonathan Coulton and probably you) struggle with holding up dozens of one-on-one conversations -- it locks up your attention and its fruits in thousands of inaccessible alcoves. And truly, that does not and will not scale. But, y'know, as I read Tantek's post, alongside his "Communication Protocols" notes, I found myself returning to a pet theory that I've been too embarrassed to lay out in a real post. But what the heck, I'll capture some notes and you can tell me what you think: I suspect that email encourages people to act insane. Right this minute, you can create an email of unlimited length covering topics of unlimited scope and then send it to unlimited numbers of people -- whom you may or may not even know -- all at absolutely no cost to you. There is also no prohibition or boundary of any kind on how you phrase that email. There's no formal penalty or even feedback for when you're using email inappropriately (e.g. the dirty look that you'd get if you said something this weird to someone's face). Plus, of course, YOU get to decide (at least in your own head) exactly how quickly all those people should be getting back to you about whatever it is you emailed them about. And you can do this pretty much any time you want and as many times a day as it suits you. No Limits. An optimist would say this indicates what a wonderfully flexible tool email is. But, a pessimist with 1500 unread emails will point out that this Wild West of Communication seems to bring out the nut in people. As I say, there must be something about email's unusual combination of intimacy and distance that can get people very emotionally engaged in hammering out demands in an email message. And not just flames -- I'm talking about people whose de facto style is borne out of an uninhibited conduit between thoughts, emotions, or desires and the email medium that helps them convert that into some kind of request. How and why this is related to Tantek's post, I'm not entirely sure. But I think there's some common ground here. Especially as this relates to that one-on-one idea and why it doesn't scale. Email culture and etiquette -- if there is such a thing -- occurs when people have a sense of how their behavior will be seen and evaluated by anyone who is not themselves. The reason most of us wear pants to the grocery store is the same reason that some people think very hard about every word that goes into their email messages and what it will mean when people read them. They understand that the message should be more about the recipient than themselves. And the Great Ones will take the time to get the tone right too -- to phrase things so that misunderstandings and unintentional emotional provocations don't occur. But if -- even without realizing it -- you see email primarily as a one-on-one medium for venting some...thing that's on your mind, you're going to produce a lot of electronic madness. Especially if you think no one is watching. I'm going to think on this some more, but I'll close with a related thought on why this all goes straight back to Time & Attention 101. Any system without scarcity or limitation will eventually suffer at the hands of people who aren't overtly aware of boundaries -- or who actively choose to break those boundaries because they can. Limitations in a communication medium not only make you think a little harder about what you have to say, they also encourage you to focus on what you and your recipient really need out of the exchange. While I'm not suggesting anything as extreme as the five-sentence email, I wonder if this might be a fun exercise to try for a day: The 0.001 ChallengeImagine that the person receiving the email you’re composing receives 1,000 other message each day more or less identical to yours. What would you do to distinguish yours from the others? What change would make your email amazingly easy to deal with and not insane? Does the content of your email belong someplace else? Like an SMS, a face-to-face meeting — or maybe even in an angry, venting screed that you never send. 24 Comments
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It's even (especially?) bad in churchesSubmitted by luomat on April 24, 2008 - 7:19am.
I was talking with a group of 6 other pastors 35 and under about issues/conflicts/etc we had faced in our churches and without any effort on my part, EVERY ONE of their stories involved someone who was using email in some passive aggressive form that they had had to respond to as pastors. I have had to tell our secretary and the head of our church board to STOP EMAILING EACH OTHER because they both have unfortunate"tone of voice" via email and each one cannot "read" the other person correctly. My decision to leave my first church was prompted, in part, by "anonymous" email that I was getting through a webform on my personal website telling me I was wasting my time on this web stuff when I should have been spending all of my time on the church (I was only working about 12 hour days). Funnily enough, the "anonymous" web form did tell me the IP address of the person who sent it, which traceroute'd back to a small company in town where one of my key volunteers worked. He signed his email "mad@righteous-anger.com" so I setup Apache to automatically redirect connections from his IP address to www.righteous-anger.com (which was, at that time, a website for a hard rock band, IIRC) which led him to send me another anonymous email from a different computer/IP (I assume his home computer) telling me he was going to try to get me fired, which I replied-to at his regular email address, asking if he would like to get together and talk about it (he never did). It is now my official work policy that if you raise an issue with me via email, I am going to respond on the phone, and I work hard not to give my work email address to anyone who does not need it for what it does well (one way distribution of information). Obviously this won't work in every job, but I believe that that insanity (or at least rampant passive aggressiveness) email leads to is actively harmful in most churches. Your idea elsewhere about turning off blog comments (and, I would add, group emails) after midnight would have avoided another messy situation where someone blurted out a rumor that he had heard and CC'd everyone related to the church in his email address book. Fortunately he didn't use BCC so I knew who I had to go and talk to afterwards, but it took months to fix the damage he did saying something at home late at night all alone that he never would have said in the light of day, or would have said differently. » POSTED IN:
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